Although most guys are very confident, there are probably quite a few who secretly envy their girlfriend's first love, because they are the unique "white moonlight", who doesn't need to be compared, and because most people's first love happens in the period of 15-26 years old.

All sorts of novel experiences that represent our growth and shape us as people constantly overlap with first love.

For example: the first time writing a thesis, the first long trip, the first time having your own home (renting a house)...

These special experiences add a beautiful "memory halo" to first love again and again, allowing them to easily score high marks in the experiment called "love".

Looking back at myself, under such a strong "first love filter", once my girlfriend starts to take "history" as a mirror, I will inevitably "die repeatedly".

In fact, many people often hesitate when love happens.

Afraid of meeting her too early, others will enjoy the benefits; but also afraid of meeting her too late, unable to squeeze into a heart filled with memories of others; even more afraid that they are just one of the stops in her life journey, but not the final stop...Everyone has their own preferences for love, which can be longed for, but it is difficult to demand.Dostoyevsky said: "Love a specific person, don't love an abstract person." This sentence is not difficult to understand.

We are always immersed in "imaginary love", pursuing those abstract, illusory shadows.

The more we feel that such and such an abstract person is lovely, the more we become picky about the people around us. As people who can be seen and touched, they seem to be so worthless.

But I want to say that only they will invite you to raise a glass to celebrate when you are successful, will care for you when you are sick, will share the joys and sorrows with you when you are sad, and accompany you through the years.

So, instead of being fixated on who your significant other should be, it's better to look at what you currently have.Every relationship is worth your heart to manage.